What is the first thing that you do after you and your partner have sex? While sex definitely plays a huge role in any relationship, it should not be mistaken as the be-all and end-all of things. In fact, there have been studies which show that the best kind of bonding that couple can have is after sex – not before or during.
So what do you and your partner do after ‘the act?’ If you want to make your relationship stronger and to take it further, you ought to make the most of the short period after you have sex. Here are some of the best bond-boosters you can engage in.
1. Have a picnic in bed.
Yes, people do get hungry after having sex. According to surveys, though, what many couples do is raid the fridge when they do feel hungry after sex. Either that, or they call for pizza to be delivered. Some even get dressed to go out and go to a restaurant to satisfy their hunger.
While all of those may sound good – rumbling bellies will accept most anything – there is a better alternative to satisfy those hunger pangs. What you can do is, prior to having sex, to make sure that you have some wine, fruit, and cheese in your pantry. When you do feel hungry afterwards, you can get the wine and cheese and have a picnic in bed.
Point number one: aside from calming down those hunger pangs, these food items will only serve to make you feel more relaxed. Point number two: enjoying these in bed will only help you to enjoy each other’s company even more.
If you’re not the wine, fruit, and cheese types, then prepare your favorite kind of food. It doesn’t have to be wine, fruit, and cheese, but these items really do give you good vibes more than other kinds of food.
2. Hit the shower.
You probably already do this. Having a post-sex shower is something that is quite common. However, instead of taking a shower individually, why don’t you two get into the shower at the same time? The idea is not to simply arouse each other again (although why not, if that happens), but to stay intimate with each other. Taking a shower will add more romance to what there is already. You can take turns washing each other’s back. You can also add a little more by giving your partner a neck and back massage while in the shower. This will also help both of you become even more relaxed.
3. Go for comfort.
Once you’re done in the shower, choose the most comfortable route for both of you. If you like cuddling in bed, then go ahead and do so. If it’s the couch that does it for you, go ahead. The idea is that you both stay together and just enjoy each other’s company without the distraction that going out will bring. You don’t even have to cuddle ‘heavily’ – the mere idea of you and your partner being together in the same room, and maybe side by side, is enough to enhance the relaxed mood after having sex.
4. Dress each other up.
Speaking of comfort, you will have to get dressed sooner or later. Why not put a twist to this mundane activity by doing a reverse strip tease? Put clothes on your partner and have him/her do the same to you. Again, the idea is to enhance the mood that you have after sex, but if you do get turned on again and decide to go back to where you started, then why not? You’ll both enjoy each other in any case.
5. Have a (sexy) music trip.
Music always serves to make the ambiance better. After sex, you simply have to choose music that both of you will appreciate. The playlist will definitely differ from one couple to another, but the idea is that you both like what you will be hearing.
6. Read together.
Another activity that you can engage in is reading. I suggest that this be way after you’ve had sex – after the shower and reverse strip tease. After sex, don’t rush off to an appointment or whatever it is that needs to be done. Instead, linger and spend time with each other. If you both like to read, you can cuddle up in bed or in the couch and just enjoy your current book. You can even engage in discussion of a point or two from the book while you’re at it.
The bottom line is that you find an activity that you will both enjoy. After you enjoy the high emotional state that sex brings, you should also enjoy each other as you bask in the warmth of each other’s presence.