You can be smart, successful, and generally believe that you’re a ‘nice’ person. But maybe, without realizing it, you have habits that drive other people crazy. These are some of the social faux paus that could be hurting your relationships. We know you don’t mean it, but the fact is, these habits could be pushing other people away—or creating obstacles in your relationship.
‘I say it like it is.’
There’s a huge difference between being honest and sincere, and being purely tactless. Your honesty is hurting other people, and though you may wish to help ‘other people grow’ trust us—cutting their confidence into shreds doesn’t help your cause. There’s a right way, and a right time, to deliver constructive criticism without hurting their feelings. And if you really had the other’s best interests at heart, you would also want to say what you need to say in the most helpful and effective manner.
‘If I were you, I would…’
Are you always offering solutions? Stop. Sometimes (make that ‘most of the time’) people just want someone who will listen to them, as they air their fears and frustrations. So before you give your suggestions, no matter how fantastic you think they are, hear the other person out. Ask questions, nod sympathetically, make eye contact—all body clues that show him that they have your 100% attention. Offer advice only when asked, or when he’s obviously reached a sense of catharsis.
‘That’s a stupid thing to do.’
Maybe they are doing something stupid, but being a judgmental know-it-all doesn’t make you any better. Arrogance is annoying. Putting other people down, or making fun of their ideas or their choices, only makes you look like the bigger loser. Are you so insecure that you need to put others down to feel better? Are you so close-minded that you attack any idea or lifestyle that’s different from yours?
Oh stop bossing other people around. You get more things done by empowering others and developing their leadership skills than trying to be the Big Guy on Campus.
‘Talk to the hand.’
Being aloof, snobby or unresponsive alienates other people and frankly makes you about as interesting as a concrete wall.
And another version of snobbishness is self-centeredness. You talk to other people, but only so far as they are willing to talk about you or cater to your needs. (Like the friend who monopolizes a conversation with all of her problems and ideas…then zones out when it’s your turn to talk.)
‘Woe is me…’
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Hahaha! I know a lot of social morons. But this article made me think that maybe I have my social moron moments too.. Thanks!
I enjoyed reading this article!
Great article! Kinda funny because there are some social morons in my office.
This entire article is idiotic on the most basic levels. You have no concept of any realistic view of the world and you are living in a fantasy, grow up.
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Someone I once respected I now realize is nothing more than a cross between a social moron and a thug in a coat and tie
No social retards are overly emotional illogical dimwits that find reasons to hate people over the slightest hint of negativity during conversation. Out of the millions of people that I know. Every social nitwit like this has no friends or few if any. There are several words for a moron and none of them are nice. How about educated idiot. The wise are subject to change. The fools are subject to lash out. Inadvertently looking at a complete idiot can make them lash out at you. So why promote any behavior such as being similar.