Complete this sentence: 'When I _______, I'll feel happy.' Most of us rearrange our lives and priorities in pursuit of a goal, thinking that once we get there, everything else will fall into place. But while goals are a great thing to have, they can feed a deep and never-ending sense of discontent. Complete one goal, and we set another. Buy one thing, and we soon end up wanting … [Read more...] about How to be happy (even on bad days)
How to use mental rehearsals to prepare for a life change
There's a lot of anecdotal evidence on how mental rehearsal has helped athletes achieve peak performance. They prepare for a big competition by imagining what they'll do at a big game or tournament, from stepping in front of the crowd to what they'll do at each point. They are also taught how to emotionally prepare for a setback by imagining what they will do after losing a set … [Read more...] about How to use mental rehearsals to prepare for a life change
How to build a resilient spirit
Let's be frank: even if we're smart, beautiful, talented, hardworking, the fact of the matter is, 'Sh*t happens.' No use whining about it or blaming your parents, God, or your boss. The really successful and happy people didn't have it easier than you. They may not have had your problems, but they certainly had their own. The only difference is that they were resilient. They … [Read more...] about How to build a resilient spirit
Are you in the middle of a quarter life crisis?
Are you in the middle of a quarter life crisis? This experience (which can actually hit you in your early twenties) is more common than you think. For some, it's a mild but unshakeable sense of anxiety that they can't make it in a very competitive world. 'College didn't prepare me for this,' or 'It's not what I expected.' They can feel insecure, confused, and overwhelmed by … [Read more...] about Are you in the middle of a quarter life crisis?
How to overcome fear of failure
We're raised to always do our best. That's good, to some extent: we need to push ourselves, persevere, and to avoid the temptation of mediocrity. But what if the desire for perfection becomes paralyzing? We become afraid of failure, and ashamed of mistakes. We undervalue our accomplishments, because somebody else did it better. We constantly seek the approval of others— … [Read more...] about How to overcome fear of failure