You’re just friends…or maybe not. There are a few subtle signs that someone is interested in you: a certain smile, a type of eye contact, or even body posture.
Here are some tips to help you find out if someone is flirting with you. If you’re not interested, these can help you back off before things get complicated. If you are, then go for it! Look at o5.com’s recipes for life for more dating tips on how to flirt back and take your relationship to the next level.
Signs of flirting: eyes
This is a classic sign that someone is interested in you. Even if he’s talking to a group of people, he keeps looking at you, and maintains eye contact far longer than usual. Hence the cliché, ‘He can’t take his eyes off you.’
When your eyes lock, grab the chance to observe for three other classic signs of flirting: dilated pupils, arched eyebrows, and rapid eye movement. This is a reflex reaction which means that he’s under heightened emotion or stress, possibly because he’s a little nervous around you (see, you’re not the only one) and his hormones are going crazy from the pull of attraction. Hmmmm.
Signs of flirting: hair
Women tend to flip their hair or play with their hair when they’re with someone they like. This could be instinctive—even animals tend to groom themselves when they’re near a desired mate, and birds will usually flare out their feathers. For the strange species that is the human female, though, look for habits like ruffling their fingers through their hair, fluffing it up, tossing it.
Signs of flirting: lips
Someone who is flirting has a tendency to lip his or her lips, or touch it with his or her tongue. It must be a reflection of a subconscious desire to, uhm….talk?….with you.
Signs of flirting: posture
One sure sign of flirting or attraction is mirroring: when someone subconsciously copies your posture. Leaning forward or towards you, and sitting in a vulnerable position (legs and arms open) are also subtle indications that someone wants to ge to know you.
Signs of flirting: hand and leg movements
Someone who is confident and aggressive will try to maintain some kind of light physical contact, like touching your arm or shoulder. But if he is shy or uncertain of your feelings, he might make nervous movements like fidgeting or shifting from one leg to the other.
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