I'll admit it: I hate going to formal parties. I feel like I'm in high school all over again, wearing the wrong thing and saying something that will totally embarrass myself in front of the 'popular kids' (in this case, the bosses, or the gorgeous socialites, or actually anyone else in the room). Once, in a fit of clumsiness, I bumped into a cocktail table and spilled a bit of … [Read more...] about How to conquer self-consciousness
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How to embrace change — and love it!
Any kind of change—moving to a new city, retiring from a career you loved, ending a long relationship—fills us with sadness and fear. But change is part of life. Trying to cling to a chapter of our life that has served its purpose can be like animating a corpse. Happiness and growth lies in allowing the change, grieving it, but welcoming possibility too. Here are some ways to … [Read more...] about How to embrace change — and love it!
How to use mental rehearsals to prepare for a life change
There's a lot of anecdotal evidence on how mental rehearsal has helped athletes achieve peak performance. They prepare for a big competition by imagining what they'll do at a big game or tournament, from stepping in front of the crowd to what they'll do at each point. They are also taught how to emotionally prepare for a setback by imagining what they will do after losing a set … [Read more...] about How to use mental rehearsals to prepare for a life change
How to build a resilient spirit
Let's be frank: even if we're smart, beautiful, talented, hardworking, the fact of the matter is, 'Sh*t happens.' No use whining about it or blaming your parents, God, or your boss. The really successful and happy people didn't have it easier than you. They may not have had your problems, but they certainly had their own. The only difference is that they were resilient. They … [Read more...] about How to build a resilient spirit
How to deal with difficult family members during reunions
You love your family, but let's face it: sometimes they can drive you crazy. Some relatives are downright toxic to be with. The overcritical aunt who has a knack for sandwiching a compliment between two cutting insults. The clingy mother who makes you feel guilty, somehow, for actually having your own life. The bossy brother who likes to act like he knows everything, and has … [Read more...] about How to deal with difficult family members during reunions